The Four Agreements

Pathways to a Thriving Spiritual Community

The way we show up with ourselves shapes the way we show up with others—and our community reflects it back to us. In this series, we explore The Four Agreements as practical pathways to deepen connection, cultivate integrity, and expand the spiritual potential of our shared space. Each week focuses on one Agreement, offering tools and insights to help us communicate clearly, act with intention, and foster a safe, vibrant environment where every person can grow, be seen, and thrive.

About the Book

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is a practical guide to personal freedom and conscious living, drawing on ancient Toltec wisdom.

The book outlines four simple yet profound agreements we can make with ourselves—be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions, and always do your best—that serve as tools for greater clarity, integrity, and inner peace.

By applying these principles, we can transform the way we relate to ourselves and others, creating a foundation for healthier communication, stronger community, and a more joyful, authentic life.

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Take it Deeper

Your word carries creative power. It shapes how you see yourself, how others experience you, and the spiritual atmosphere we share. This week, we practice aligning our speech with truth, compassion, and intention. As we do this together, we root our community deeper in clarity, trust, and connection.

  • Spend 10–15 minutes exploring:

    • How do I speak to myself when I fall short?

    • Am I using common phrases that affirm a negative view of myself or others?

    • Where might my words be creating subtle separation?

  • The Sacred Pause (5 Minutes)

    1. Sit comfortably and take three slow breaths.

    2. Bring to mind a recent conversation that felt charged.

    3. Notice the words you used — outwardly or internally — without judgment.

    4. Ask quietly: What would love have said instead?

    5. Close with this affirmation:

      My words create clarity, connection, and peace.

First Agreement | February 15

Be impeccable with your word.

Rev. Aliza kicks off our series with her talk, “Being Impeccable with Your Word: Speaking with Integrity, Power, and Love”, exploring what it means to be impeccable with your word: speaking truthfully, consciously, and with love.

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Take it Deeper

Nothing others do is because of you. Their words and actions arise from their own stories, wounds, and perceptions. Practicing this Agreement helps us release what isn’t ours to carry and remain rooted in our own truth. As we practice this freedom together, we create a spiritual community rooted in steadiness, grace, and emotional maturity.

  • Spend 10–15 minutes exploring:

    • What situations tend to feel personal to me?

    • What story about myself gets activated in those moments?

    • How might I respond if I didn’t assume it was about me?

  • Returning to Center (5 Minutes)

    1. Sit quietly and place one hand over your heart.

    2. Recall a recent interaction that stirred emotion.

    3. Imagine the other person’s words dissolving before reaching your center.

    4. Breathe in steadiness; breathe out release.

    5. Affirm:

      I release what is not mine. I remain grounded in truth.

Second Agreement | February 22

Don’t take anything personally.

Dr. Nancy Little, LUT, guides us through the Second Agreement with her talk, “Staying Free: The Spiritual Practice of Not Taking Things Personally”, inviting us to release personalization to restore inner peace, strengthen emotional resilience, and stay rooted in our spiritual truth no matter what.

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Take it Deeper

Assumptions quietly erode connection. Clarity, on the other hand, builds trust and deepens understanding. This Agreement calls us into courageous communication—asking, expressing, and listening with openness. As we practice asking and clarifying together, we nurture a thriving spiritual community grounded in honesty, understanding, and compassionate connection.

  • Spend 10–15 minutes exploring:

    • Where do I tend to assume instead of ask?

    • What fear keeps me from seeking clarity?

    • What relationship would benefit from honest conversation?

  • Choosing Curiosity (5 Minutes)

    1. Take three slow breaths.

    2. Bring to mind a situation that feels unclear.

    3. Gently ask yourself: What am I assuming here?

    4. Imagine replacing that assumption with openness and curiosity.

    5. Affirm:

      I choose clarity. I seek understanding with love.

Third Agreement | March 1

Don’t make assumptions.

Gretchel Johnson, LUT, guides us through the Third Agreement with her talk, “Is That True or Did I Just Make That Up?”, looking at how quickly the mind fills in missing information—and how those stories can create unnecessary stress, strain and misunderstanding.

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Take it Deeper

Doing your best is not about perfection—it is about presence. This Agreement invites grace, self-compassion, and sustainable effort. When we release comparison and judgment, growth becomes steady and joyful. As we bring our best forward together, we cultivate a spiritual community that celebrates effort, supports growth, and thrives in shared integrity.

  • Spend 10–15 minutes exploring:

    • How do I define “doing my best”?

    • Where do I pressure myself beyond what’s sustainable?

    • What would grace look like in my effort?

  • Compassionate Effort (5 Minutes)

    1. Sit comfortably and take a slow breath.

    2. Bring to mind something you’ve judged yourself for recently.

    3. Imagine offering yourself understanding instead of criticism.

    4. Place your hand over your heart and soften your shoulders.

    5. Affirm:

      I honor my effort. I grow with grace.

Fourth Agreement | March 8

Always do your best.

Dr. Nancy Little, LUT, closes out the series, with her talk on the Fourth Agreement: Always do your best.

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Meditate & Remember Yourself

Join Rev. Aliza Bloom Robinson for a gentle guided meditation to lift inner fog, awaken clarity, and reconnect with who you truly are beneath the noise of daily life. Loosely inspired by Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, this practice offers a quiet space to pause, breathe, and reflect, helping you move through the world with greater presence, ease, and authenticity.

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Go Deeper

Expand your journey with additional books by Don Miguel Ruiz, each offering guidance to deepen self-awareness, transform limiting beliefs, and cultivate a more conscious, authentic life.

These works build on the insights of The Four Agreements, providing practical tools, meditative practices, and timeless wisdom to support your personal growth. Whether you’re looking to strengthen your clarity, align with your true purpose, or explore new dimensions of inner freedom, this collection invites you to continue your path of self-discovery and spiritual empowerment.

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The Four Agreements introduced a simple, but powerful code of conduct for attaining personal freedom and true happiness. Now The Four Agreements Companion Book takes you even further along the journey to recover the awareness and wisdom of your authentic self. This companion book is a must-read not only for those who enjoyed don Miguel’s first book, but for anyone who is ready to leave suffering behind, and to master the art of living in our natural state: happiness. Get the book →

The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

In The Mastery of Love, Don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships. Get the book →

The Circle of Fire: Inspiration and Guided Meditations for Living in Love and Happiness

In The Circle of Fire, Don Miguel Ruiz, inspires us to enter into a new and loving relationship with ourselves, with our fellow humans, and with all of creation. Through a selection of beautiful essays, prayers, and guided meditations, Ruiz prepares our minds for a new way of seeing life, and opens our hearts to find our way back to our birthright: heaven on earth. The result is a life lived in joy, harmony, and contentment. Get the book →

The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace

In The Voice of Knowledge, Miguel Ruiz reminds us of a profound and simple truth: The only way to end our emotional suffering and restore our joy in living is to stop believing in lies — mainly about ourselves. Ruiz changes the way we perceive ourselves, and the way we perceive other people. Then he opens the door to a reality that we once perceived when we were one and two years old — a reality of truth, love, and joy. Get the book →

The Fifth Agreement: A Practical Guide to Self-Mastery

In The Fifth Agreement, Don Miguel Ruiz joins his son, Don Jose Ruiz, to offer a fresh perspective on The Four Agreements, and a powerful new agreement for transforming your life into your personal heaven. The Fifth Agreement takes us to a deeper level of awareness of the power of the Self, and returns us to the authenticity we were born with and reminding us of the greatest gift we can give ourselves: the freedom to be who we really are. Get the book →